Trying for a baby requires big changes to a couple’s lifestyle and can put a strain on the healthiest of relationships.
It’s always best to imagine how having a baby would impact upon you, and your partner’s, life. Not only in terms of time but also the fundamental changes that would have to be made to your daily routine and lifestyle. Once this has been realised, it is easier to maintain the romantic side of the pregnancy dream whilst understanding the reality of having a baby and trying to conceive.
It’s important to keep the romance alive. As a couple you can include all the pastimes that you enjoyed together before the pressures of trying for a baby, such as listening to music, watching movies or reading a book. A weekend break or holiday can also be beneficial to allow you to focus upon the aspects that first attracted you to one another. It is true that in our work-orientated society, sex can often be the last thing you want to think about.
Communication is the key, as in some cases one partner is more willing to try for a baby than the other, so you have to be open and listen to each other and respect each other’s needs and time. If couples find this difficult, it can be helpful to seek the assistance of a third-party, such as a fertility counsellor, to reopen the lines of communication.
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